December 10, 2011

Being Twenty-Something

I can't remember where I stumbled upon this but it's so perfect for where I'm at, and where a lot of my friends are. Mind you some points don't apply to me and may not apply to you, but in a whole I think it's a great reminder that we're not alone in our thoughts, triumphs, and struggles.

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you
stop going along with the crowd and start realizing
that there are many things about yourself that you
didn't know and may not like. You start feeling
insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or
two, but then get scared because you barely know where
you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that,
maybe, those friends that you thought you were so
close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have
ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are
some of the most important ones. What you don't
recognize is that they are realizing that too, and
aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that
they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to
what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking
for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at
the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what
others are doing and find yourself judging more than
usual because suddenly you realize that you have
certain boundaries in your life and are constantly
adding things to your list of what is acceptable and
what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the
next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest
force of your life. You feel alone and scared and
confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try
and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon
realize that the past is drifting further and further
away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you
are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you
loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed
and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough
that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone
but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing
this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night
stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and
acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over
and over, and talk with your friends about the same
topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You
worry about loans, money, the future and making a life
for yourself... and while winning the race would be
great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying
as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.



  1. Your blog looks so cute and x-mas feeling : )

  2. Yes. This is great.

  3. That is great! I feel like I'm in my quarter life crisis too! So glad you posted it... I'm sure it's something that we can all identify with :)

    Hope you had a great day! XOXO

  4. A Accessory Swap is FO REALLLL happening over at my place.