January 13, 2012
Tips on Getting Comfortable with Fear
Recently I've been facing my biggest fears head on, not an easy task but one that is incredibly rewarding. And just as many things have come to me in crucial moments, this morning I came across an article on Tiny Buddah about fear.
The writer shares her experience with fear and some tips (which I've amended some based on my experience) on how we can all start to face it, and overcome it.
I hope they help you as much as I know they will help me.
1. Get comfortable with fear.
Invite fear into your life. When you fear something, move toward it. Feel it, and breathe through it.
Do the things that frighten you, for action builds courage. Tell yourself, “This fear will pass.” Your world expands as your courage expands.
2. Make your dominant thoughts positive.
This goes along with my motto "change your thoughts, change your life."
Positive thoughts attract positive happenings. Instead of expecting the worst, train your mind to expect the best. Make positive assumptions about your future and watch the beauty unfold.
3. Don’t give time, attention, or energy to fear.
Hold yourself accountable. Be consistent, be prepared, be dependable, and focus on solutions.
Be innovative, take the initiative, and go the extra mile. If you don’t take action despite your fear, opportunity will pass you by.
4. Never dwell on scarcity.
Learn to think, speak, and live as an abundant person. Celebrate what you have and be generous with it.
Focus your attention on being ready, willing, and prepared for the beauty, wonder, connections, good fortune, and favorable circumstances that are yours if you are willing to work and be open to it.
5. Revisit your victories.
This one is very important. Strengthen your belief in yourself by reflecting on every success you’ve experienced. Did you get a promotion at work? Have you been able to cross things off your to-do list? Did you get a good grade?
Close your eyes and feel the celebratory emotion of each one. Bring the same drive, persistence, and talent into now and allow it to inspire and motivate you.
6. Live vicariously through the victories of others.
Use the success stories of others as fuel. Read how the Brooklyn Bridge was built. Study the success of Steve Jobs, Walt Disney, Steven Spielberg, and Oprah Winfrey. Take note of the courage they developed and follow their path to greatness.
7. Ask your family and friends for encouragement.
Family and friends can see our strength when we forget we have it. If you have the courage to ask, they won't hesitate to remind you of all trials and triumphs you have come through.
8. Create a support group of friends or colleagues.
Robert Folgrum said it best in his book, All I Really Needed to Know I Learned in Kindergarten: “When you go out into the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.” Sticking together makes tough times easier and easier times more fun!
9. Plan to be great.
Step into your power and dream big. Follow it up with calculated risks and deliberate action steps. Have no doubt about your success. Your dreams are at stake here!
You have the power to do what it takes to break through any obstacles that stand in the way of yourself, your dreams, and your happiness.